Mind Your Business

Reposted from @relationshipandmarriage on IG


0. unfortunately, not a lot of people even know what their business is!
1. Julia is my personal “business”  and I must make sure that business is healthy and profitable.
2. We live in a generation in which almost everyone is analysing everyone else’s condition and conviction even when their own business is unattended.
3. We want to get on blogs and read the latest gossip, argue the recent issues and mind every other business. Whereas, if our secret or personal lives are played on the screens, we most likely would be the bad news that gossip blogs crave!
4. We seriously need focus. The deliberate turning of our attention to what matters most to us.
5. What is going on in my own relationship?
6. Am I as in touch and connected with my partner as I am with my social media followers?
7. In the long run, who do I really have, you or Julia? You know the truth and the truth is that while I am called to you, she is my life. Without my life, what is my call?
8. Minding my business means taking the subject of my partner’s happiness and making it the priority of my choices and conduct.
9. Minding my business means that I am aware that it takes seed to get harvest, effort to get result and investment to get profit.
10. I need to spend time critically thinking and examining how I can be a better partner.
11. I need to review my performance through specific periods and make relevant adjustments.
12. I need to understand that my partner’s complains about me aren’t meant to meet the stiff wall of my prideful resistence but a considerate response that humbly consider their point and reflect on how to be different.
13. I need to accept that my partner is imperfect and would require my patience and understanding as we navigate through life.
14. I need to always be willing to learn new ways to make it work like taking refresher course and updating my “relational software”. Yes.
15. Above all, I need to stay humble in prayer, receiving grace to be the best man for her.
16. She is where I should succeed first before I succeed everywhere else.


Ocholi Okutepa  – #regrann 


How Contentment can increase mental well-being.

But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it.

I will define contentment as a feeling of self satisfaction. God does not love us equally rather, He loves us personally, uniquely and adequately.

Our needs and desires are different, it will be unhealthy to judge our satisfaction based on others accomplishments.

Think about a child who is in search for five stones to build a house, when he got the first stone, he was happy and ventured for the second one with enthusiasm. When he got the second stone, he threw a party for his friends.

Contentment will make the journey of life fun and easy. It not that you settled for less rather you appreciate what you have now. If only we can pause a bit to look at how far we have gone then we realised how ungrateful we’ve being to ourselves.

Accepting your current position will give you good knowledge of what you need to get to the desired position. Paul said that he has learnt the secret on content. This is the secret: He who is not contented with one can’t be content with many. Because lack of content leads to greed.

Today, write out the things you are grateful for.